For all of us who bet on the job, bank account, and "someday love"—and woke up wondering if we accidentally retired from romance too.
Let’s talk about something that makes midlifers squirm more than a swimsuit fitting under fluorescent lights: finding love at our age.
I’m not talking about Hallmark movie love. I’m talking about real love—someone who sees your weird habits, your reading glasses, your occasional hot flashes or snores, and says, “Yep, I still want in.”
For many of us, especially those of us who were high achievers (read: obsessive over-workers), love always felt like it could wait. You thought…
“I’ll get the degree first.”
“I’ll focus on the promotion.”
“I’ll build the retirement.”
“I’ll travel once I’ve hit my number.”
“I’ll meet someone when the time is right.”
And here you are.
The degree? Hanging proudly.
The career? Respectable and long.
The money? You’ve got enough to be fine.
But the “someone”?
Yeah… that one got left in a spreadsheet tab labeled ‘Eventually.’
And now you’re in your 60s wondering why the only long-term relationship that stuck was the one with your career. Or your Roth IRA.
So What Happened?
Here’s the truth I share with clients all the time (usually after a deep sigh and a glass of wine):
- You didn’t mess anything up.
- You just manifested what you focused on.
That’s how this whole life thing works. You’re not broken. You’re just trained.
For decades, your dominant vibration was achievement, stability, proving your worth, doing it right. You were tuned to the frequency of “I’ll feel better when…”
And the universe? Oh, it heard you loud and clear and delivered what matched that vibe:
✔ Respect
✔ A title
✔ A decent parking spot
✔ And a weirdly deep connection to your Outlook calendar.
But what it didn’t deliver was the slow dancing in the kitchen, the waking up next to someone who rubs your back just because, or the kind of romance that makes you forget which day of the week it is (and not because you’re retired).
The Shift Starts Here
When clients come into my 12-week coaching program, they’re not saying, “Help me get a date.” They’re saying,
“Help me find myself again… and maybe attract the kind of love I used to believe in.”
And wouldn’t you know it—when they stop pushing, stop calculating, and stop settling into the story that “it’s too late”...
That’s when the magic starts.
Not because we install an app or join a dating service.
But because they start vibrating differently.
They start smiling differently.
They start living differently.
They rediscover what it means to feel worthy now, not someday.
They align with joy.
And they become magnetic—not just to love, but to life.
Let Me Tell You About Laura
Retired financial analyst. Big house. Bigger fears.
She spent her entire adult life managing risk—emotionally and financially.
She joined the 12-week coaching program thinking maybe she’d find a passion project.
Seven weeks in, she found something else.
An old friend. A warm dinner. A “how the hell did I miss you all these years?” moment.
Now? They’re planning a trip to Italy—and she’s stopped checking her 401(k) twice a day because he reminds her, “We’re here now.”
So if you're in your 50s, 60s, or beyond, and love still feels like a maybe…
Let me say this as clearly as possible:
You didn’t miss your chance. You just focused elsewhere.
Now it’s time to re-tune the dial.
You can fall in love again. With someone else. With your own life. With what’s next.
And it won’t be because you tried harder.
It’ll be because you finally stopped trying and started allowing.
And if you want help doing that?
Well, you know where to find me. The 12-week program is open, the seat has your name on it, and your next chapter is not waiting for Prince Charming.
It’s waiting for you to believe again.
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PS: If you’ve been stuck thinking “those kinds of stories don’t happen to people like me,” it’s time to rewrite that. Clients just like you are doing it every day—falling back in love with life and watching love meet them where they are. Want in? Book your free discovery call and let’s get you started.
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Until Next Time, Live Life To Your Fullest!
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